Sunday, May 10, 2009

frenemy

There is nothing wrong with friends being interested in your personal life. But if they seem overly invested in your affairs or if they frequently offer unsolicited advice, you may want to take notice. Most of the time, your pal means no harm. But he/she may have an underlying desire to feel important or needed. This kind of behavior is often seen as judgmental. It might, or might not be. Nonetheless, there is nothing worse than having your personal life choices placed under a microscope. If this seems to be where you're headed, you should either address the issue head-on, or give the friendship some distance.

---From Friend to Frenemy: Three Destructive Friendship Patterns, Blurred Boundaries

ditto. in time, one just gets tired of all the advice. one eventually declines invites like hanging out or trips out of town. one then realizes that trips alone or chillin' out with a new set of friends are better options. distance is good.

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Anonymous jeyo said...

hehehe. sometimes people are like that to you so that they can feel better about themselves. but the truth is, they are just as lonely as everyone else, hiding in a denial wall but they too are in the dark... we all are, anyways.

you're in a better position cath than any of those people, you know where you are and you know who you are ;)

7:48 AM  
Blogger cath said...

hey jeyu...thanks. :)
*hugs*

11:31 PM  

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